Thursday, February 12, 2009

My Adventure to Washington, DC Today (surprise revealed)

Everyone knows the economy is tough. I've lost many clients for my web
presence consulting/design firm. I decided to hire on with a temporary
employment agency to get my foot in the door for my next career
adventure. So today was an interview with the agency in Washington, DC.
Well, I don't drive in Washington, DC (it's too scary and parking is a
huge pain in the $*@#!)

So I set off to do public transportation today. Unfortunately where I
leave public transport to get to the subway is long and involved, so I
opted to drive my car to a shopping center NEAR the subway. With
winds gusting up to 50 miles per hour, I set off for the long walk
from the shopping area to the subway station (wearing my black
pinstripe ‘power suit’ and sensible shoes, of course).

I take the subway train the 8 stops to my Washington, DC exit and walk
to my interview (lots of walking, I remember walking everywhere when I
lived in Washington, DC and I was is superb physical condition too).
I’m in very good condition now too or I’d be winded from all this
walking around (ha, ha). The interview went well and I’ll get a follow
up call on Monday (and hopefully my first assignment sometime next

After the interview I trek off for the long walk back to the subway
station. I take a wrong turn and make a circle to head in the correct
direction. Meanwhile, the sun is shining on my face and the wind is
blowing my loose curly hair everywhere, but I LOVE it! (Yeah for
sunshine to fight ‘seasonal affective disorder’ . . . but I digress,

At one point I look up and realize that I’m only blocks away from the
White House! I stop and stand there for a moment with memories flooding
back of my younger days of living and working in DC and the first time
I came upon the view of the White House!

It really IS still amazing after all these years (31 years to be exact) to still feel the thrill of being in the nation’s capitol and stand there gazing upon the house
where the President of the United States of America lives! WOW!

Okay, so…I continue my journey to the subway and spy ahead of me a
cameraman and a reporter.

As I approach to walk behind them, the young man with the microphone stops me and says, “excuse me, I’m from German television and would like to ask you a few questions.” I reply, “Sure, why not.” He proceeds to ask me if I’m familiar with the Smart Car, to which I reply yes I’ve heard of it. He then hands me a picture to study and asks me if I would drive one.

I respond with a long (articulate) commentary on how Americans are as equally concerned with fuel efficiency as they are with crash protection. I state my concern on the size of the car, and would be interested in the crash data and whether it has airbags, side crash protection etc. We have a lengthy interview,
he thanks me, I smile and continue on my way. Wasn’t that neat? THAT’S
the surprise! Now of course, I have no way of knowing if my interview
will actually end up on German television, but it was pretty nifty to
be randomly interviewed like that on a subject that I felt competent to
discuss. Ha, I feel like such a nerd. (tee, hee, hee).

So off I go 8 stops back to Falls Church, Virginia to be reunited with
my car. It was an interesting morning AND I got an invigorating walk in
the sun and warm windy air and a bit of an adventure to Washington, DC.

Now I sit here checking my email after a quick vegetarian lunch. I’ve
changed my clothes

and I’m off to the dance studio to dance (must put a band aid on that heel blister first…ouch!) and take some photographs of some vintage gowns I’m trying to sell.

I still have 40 gowns left from my vintage gown business…which has sense been converted to a wedding re-creation business of hats, veils

and various wedding accessories).

Now, you might ask me why I’m going the route of temporary employment.
Well, I am interested in pursuing my next career endeavor and working
as an employee in a big company (I’ve done consulting and
self-employment for the last 10 years while I worked on my honors
degree at university). I’m very good at what I do, and want to continue
my career track into management. Although I’m excellent with projects,
I’m more interested in people at this point in my life. I have a strong
desire to transition more formally into change management, the human
relations side of it so I either have to go back and get my master’s in
change or organizational management or consider an advanced degree in
industrial organizational psychology. The certificate route appeals to
me as well, but I need more ‘formal’ human resources experience
(employment law etc.)

Where I used to work, I interviewed, trained, and hired our temp
employees, so I know it from the other side of the coin. Sometimes to
get your ‘foot in the door’ of a corporation, you have to get in the
door. Temping offers the possibility of a symbiotic relationship
because you can work for a company on a temporary assignment. While
you’re working there you get a feel for the place and they get to see
how awesome you are in return! I want to get my ‘foot in the door’ of a
company that I can’t get into otherwise, and show them that I’m awesome
as an administrative manager and executive assistant, but I also have a
lot more to offer a company too. I also clearly have tenure and am
interested in a career home and not JUST a job. So I’m excited about my
future and working towards my goal of helping an organization and
helping people too. It’s a feel good to do a job very well and I get
paid to do it too!

FYI, I love to write and I’m trying my hand at blogging. You can find me at

I hope you like my story today and hope you’ll be interested in following me on my journey through my blog.


Maria (smileywoman)

PS I'll come back later today and add some of my pictures.

1. Doesn't everyone do impromptu ballet in street clothing?

2. Doggies

3. Trees (I LOVE trees)

4. Doggies outside

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

How the Concept Came About And a Tip On Embracing Your Inner Child

How the Concept Came to Me

I didn't consider embracing my inner child until I was over 40 years old.

The concept for me was realized after a conversation with my husband (14 years my senior) who suggested that I embrace my inner child. His advise stemmed from me stating that I had been trying to murder my inner child all my life. I stuffed it deep down inside of me and denied it's existence so I could be a SERIOUS adult. The problem? I wasn't as happy a person because the adult side of me NEEDED to acknowledge the very real existence of that wonderful inner child. That concept changed my life. I found a way for the SERIOUS side of me to be more in control in a positive way. Have the adult side calm and nurture the inner child when it was scared. By acknowledging the inner child the adult side was allowed to be in control because the inner child was happy to be acknowledged.

I'm sure it sounds like split personality, and for me it IS a bit like that. I suppose my strange thinking is a coping mechanism as a survivor of abuse. The inner child was a strong force in me. Unfortunately too strong. I needed to find a way to nurture, validate and calm the scared inner child so I could have a more harmonious existence between the adult and the child-like side of me.

How to Embrace Your Inner Child


Well I happen to be Post-Menopausal with a few hot flashes thrown in, so THAT picture is so VERY appropriate for ME!

Have you ever notice how GOOD you feel when you laugh? Do you remember laughing so much you can't breathe, have to hold your sides, tears run down your cheeks and you nearly wet yourself?

It is VERY good therapy to laugh. It's equally important to laugh at ourselves. After all we are only human. We're quite infallible in fact.

Why do you suppose those rubber tips (called erasers) were invented and put on the ends of pencils? Because we are NOT perfect and we make mistakes, that's why!

Find Resources

A List of Books and Videos to Consider

Recovery of Your Inner Child: The Highly Acclaimed Method for Liberating Your Inner Self
Meditations to Meet Your Inner Child
For Your Inner Angry Child
Getting Thru to Your Soul: Inner Child, Relationships & Advanced Techniques
Your Inner Child of the Past
Homecoming: Reclaiming Your Inner Child
Claim Your Inner Grown-Up: 4 Essential Steps to Authentic Adulthood
Affirmations for the Inner Child
Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child
Bedtime Stories for the Inner Child: Reuniting With and Nurturing Your Inner Child
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child

Practice Pause Moments

One way to embrace your inner child is to practice 'pause moments'. You know moments of truly reflecting on THAT exact moment that you're in and how wonderful it is. Life can be such a rat race, that we forget to stop and enjoy the beautiful of simple things in life.

So sit at the bar of life, take a sip and reflect.
Practice Self-Talk (Meta-Talk Therapy)

Have positive conversations with yourself. Work on positive reinforcements to change negative programming and negative ways of thinking and acting.

It could be as simple as changing your style of thought

Try practicing Wealthy Thought-forms INSTEAD of Poverty Thought-forms.

This is a form of positive reinforcement by changing a pattern of behavior to say positive statements to replace negative ones.

Remember, it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile!! Saying positive things will help you feel and act more positive.

-Try to see the glass as half full (not half empty).
-Try to focus on the positive side of a situation.

Can you think of other ways to practice positive reinforcements for yourself?

I'm positive that YOU can!

Future Goals
I hope to be a motivational speaker someday and help empower women to learn to embrace THEIR inner child too. I'm also writing a series of books for tweens about a little yellow bird and his great adventures. The book started out as one and turned into a trilogy!

I'm also an administrative organizational manager who aligns people and projects. I hope to obtain an advancement degree and/or certification in the near future in organizational or change management.

I hope you enjoy my blog.